Wednesday 15 August 2018

Worth reading pregnancy books

Books I read when I saw the two pink lines...
1)Pregnancy notes by Rujuta Diwakar-

Rujuta Diwakar is a leading health expert who helped kareena kapoor khan trough her pregnancy and even after delivery to be fit and back to work. This book recommends healthy diet plans, busts myths, suggests exercises and recipes. She advises to follow a diet which incorporates fresh local produce that is easily available over the packaged over rated products imported from other places. According to here our body is designed to upkeep itself best with the help of the local produce in sync with the climate and weather conditions we live in. She has also encouraged the importance of a balanced diet which includes ghee and natural sweetening sources like gur over artificial sweeteners. Pregnancy Notes: Before, During & After https://www.amazon.in/dp/9386224895/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_PLdrBbCPKM8T8

2)Fit pregnancy by Namita Jain. – Namita jain is also a wellness expert. This book is similar to the previous one and is in similar format too. I found pregnancy notes to be more useful interesting and handy. Fit Pregnancy : The Complete Health Plan For You And Your Baby https://www.amazon.in/dp/9350293447/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_9NdrBb1RAZ5T9

3)Awakening in womb by Dr. Monika Singh- Inspired from the tale of Abhimanyu in Mahabharat, this book promotes the school of notion that the mother’s thought process and subconscious mind is responsible in shaping the subconscious of the unborn baby in the womb itself or as Dr.Monika likes to call it ‘blueprinting’. She calls them miracle babies. She has written about her own life, various case studies, her experiments and results, everything in detail. More information about this can be found on her website (www.miraclemedicalmission.com). Awakening in Womb: Science of Blueprinting the Subconscious Mind of Your Unborn https://www.amazon.in/dp/1977863051/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_0OdrBbN6G7Q5W

A similar source I found on YouTube channel named ‘virtue baby’ which is by dr. Nitika sobti in collaboration with brahmakumari sister Shivani. (www.virtuebaby.com)

4)Chicken soup for the soul New Moms.- This is a light read for first time moms second time moms, moms to twins etc. comprising of 101 inspirational short stories of joy, love and wonder. These are too short stories of a page or two which you can easily read and sleep without worrying about giving a earmark, or even when you are lacking focus to keep yourself distracted from any uneasy pain or even between frequent washroom trips. New Moms: 101 Inspirational Stories of Joy, Love and Wonder (Chicken Soup for the Soul) https://www.amazon.in/dp/9383260831/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_QQdrBb0X9NTXR

Home remedies for monsoons

My father's home remedies for cough and cold during monsoon.
1) Try to make this medicine out of tulsi and ginger. Take 7 to 10 tulsi leaves and wash them nicely. Take 1inch ginger, wash it and remove the skin. Crush the leaves and ginger with a pestle and mortar. Do not grind it. Crush it nicely and then squeeze it to get the juice with ur clean bare hands. To this juice add a tsp of honey. Only 1 or 2 tbsp it will become. Have this tincture first thing jn the morning on empty stomach. This remedy cures as well as prevents cough and cold. My father used to make it for me and my sister.

2) U can also make a tea out of tulsi, ginger, black pepper, cloves, bay leaves, cardamom. Add salt to taste and mishri. Store this ale in a thermoflask and sip it all day.

3) Try to suck on half a inch ginger coated with salt or only a clove for long time by placing it under the tongue near the molars. The juice will be released slowly and soothe the throat.

4) U can also try sunthi ( powder of dried ginger) along with some warm ghee. Mix it with ur steaming hot rice in lunch time.

5) when I was in hostel and not too well to do all this, I used to rely on only hot water. I would carry my thermoflask like a kid to every where for those 3 to 4 days. And just chew 7 to 8 tulsi leaves if available.
Initially i didnt know that these remedies were actually so helpful. When i caught cough and cold in college, i visisted a lot of my professors who would give me various cough syrups with codeine, dextromethorphan, guaphensin, ephedrine etc but with no relief. Finally one of them gave me cough syrup reswas which was effective after finishing 2 bottles. So when ever i used catch cold, the persisting cough tooke two weeks to go even with this syrup. Then i became irritated with such long duration and tried to remeber my father's remedies. Amazing when i started doing it, i was relieved within 3 to 4 days. By the time the cold has gone, cough is also gone. No residual cough!
All these natural ingredients are also safe in pregnancy and help to build immunity also.

Nausea in pregnancy

How I dealt with nausea and vomiting in first trimester?

One fine morning I woke up feeling weak and craving for nimbu paani. The craving was so strong that I skipped my morning routine of tooth brushing and drank up 2 large tumblers of nimbu paani instantly. Only then it struck me that I had missed my periods. The upt card test confirmed it with 2 pink lines. I was about to shout at the top of my voice but instead I puked, holding my tummy I hit the bed and called for help. Happily in distress I was. Little did I know that this is going to be the story for next 3 months. But by the end of it, I had a list of items to alternate along with meals as I got too bored with only lemons. Some were easy and instant and some needed a few preparations. I have listed them down here.

1)The most easy peasy one is half a lemon juice with a pinch of salt and one smashed chilly. The smell of it relieves nausea instantly and improves the ability to take the food bite into the mouth.

2)Tomato chutney- 1 tomato fried lightly in oil and smashed with finely chopped onions, amada ( a type of ginger with raw mango essence in it) , finely chopped green chillies, finely chopped coriander and one finely chopped garlic. I had aversion to the smell of onion garlic also, so I used to skip them. And not to forget salt to taste. U can also put aamchur and chat masala.

3)Raw mango chutney- It was beginning of summers and raw mangoes were abundantly available in market. One finely chopped raw mango ground with 2 green chilies, a twig of coriander, half inch amada, one tsp cumins (jeera) and salt to taste. If the mango is too sour then you can add some sugar or jaggery. This chutney can be stored in refrigerator for 4 to 5 days and consumed as and when required.

4)Amla (gooseberry) can be cut into long pieces sun dried for to 5 days and then coated with salt and black salt. It is to be sun dried for 4 to 5 days more until the water has dried up completely and then stored in an air tight container. One piece of amla can be kept under the tongue near the molars for sometime and then chewed.

5)Ginger dipped in honey can also be placed under the tongue near the molars and sucked onto for sometime and later on chewed.

6)Thick yogurt with salt to taste and one green chilly smashed in it. But be careful not to eat yogurt directly from the refrigerator. Take the yogurt out of refrigerator at least one hour before your meal time.

7)Dahi chhas- The thick yogurt can be churned mildly by adding water in small amounts. A few tender lemon leaves, a twig of coriander leaves one green chilly, half inch ginger, half a lemon juice to be crushed roughly using a pestle and mortar. This mixture is added to the watery yogurt followed by salt to taste, a pinch of black salt, a pinch of amchur, chat masala and jeera powder. Stir it well to get the perfect blend. A sip of this drink will help to gulp down the food slowly.

8)Coriander tamarind chutney- A handful of finely chopped coriander leaves grounded with 1 tsp of pre-water-soaked cumin seeds, half inch amada/normal ginger, half cup of tamarind water, jaggery/sugar and salt to taste. The tamarind has to be soaked in hot water for an hour and then the flesh has to separated from the seeds manually and taken out. This chutney can be stored for 4 to 5 days in the refrigerator and consumed liberally along with meals. The taste of this chutney gets enhanced after one day.

9)Sun dried salt coated raw mango pieces (a.k.a ambula in odia) can be soaked in warm water for an hour and then crushed with a spoonful of yogurt, green chilly, few curry leaves and garlic. Raw mangoes have to be cut into long pieces and sun dried for a 4 to 5 days. Then they are coated with salt and again sun dried for 4 to 5 days until the water has dried completely. The mangoes become black in colour after being completely sundried. This mango can be used in various ways like in dal, with lemon juice, crushed garlic and green chillies, sambhar, etc. In odisha, a dish called ambula rai is also prepared using it with yogurt and mustard paste.

10)Readymade mango pickles and lemon pickles can also save the day if nothing else is available.

11)Peanut chutney- This is another of my favourite chutney which I prefer to have with all south Indian dishes. A handful of peanuts to be roasted and the red skin is to be removed. The peanuts are then grinded along with 1 tsp of cumin, 2 green chillies and salt to taste. This has to be freshly prepared and consumed immediately. It doesn't taste that good if stored.

12)Finely chopped fresh raw mango sprinkled with salt, black salt, jeera powder, red chilli powder, and chat masala. The smell helps to fight the nauseous feeling and chewing the tangy mango pieces feels heavenly. As kids also, along with my friends I used to steal raw mangoes by throwing stones and ask mumma to make this for us. We used enjoy it during the evening kaal baisakhi rains making various kinds of noises while eating.

13)Tomato khatta- This is an interesting side dish recipe which I demanded every alternate day. For this simple recipe, 1 tsp cumin seeds, paanch phoran, finely chopped green chillies and few curry leaves are to be spluttered in 1 tbsp oil in a wok. Then finely chopped onion is added and fried until golden. Then freshly chopped tomatoes, dates/ kissmiss, salt to taste and jaggery/sugar is added and covered over a low flame. After 10 minutes when the tomatoes become mushy, half a glass water is added and covered again for 5 more minutes. It is garnished with sprigs of coriander and grated coconut if avaiable and served hot with chappatis, parathas or even as side dish with rice.

14)Dahi baingan- this is a very common recipe, every household prepares it in its own way. Instead of deep frying the baingan, I prefer to shallow fry the baingan, in order to keep it healthy, along with jeera, paanch phoran, red chillies, curry leaves and salt to taste. Once it cools down, I add it to the smooth yogurt prepared by lightly churning the thick yogurt with small amounts of water. To enhance the taste, red chilly powder, jeera powder, aamchur chat masala etc can be added as per availability and garnished with coriander leaves.

15)Ambula rai- for this recipe the sundried salt coated mango pieces as explained earlier have to soaked in water over night. In a wok, 1 tsp cumin seeds, paanch phoran red chillies and curry leaves are splutterd. 1 tbsp paste of white mustard seeds is added to it followed by the pre soaked mango pieces. It is covered and allowed to cook over a low flame for 10 minutes and then it is cooled down. Yogurt is lightly churned by adding small amount of water to get an adequate consistency. Freshly grated coconut, salt to taste, red chilly powder, jeera powder, aamchur and chat masala are added to taste and mixed. The cooled down mangoes in the wok is then added to the yogurt mixture.

16)Boondi raita- Unsweetened boondi added to smooth yogurt with salt, sugar, red chilly powder, aamchur, black salt and chat masala also tastes good.

17)Freshly chopped cucumber and onion raita is also an option

18)South indian rasam.

19)Pre soaked tamarind smashed with green chillies and garlic.

20)Classic nimbu paani ( not to forget) with or without jaljeera.

All these various forms and types of sourness helped me to fair through those difficult 3 months. Even the smell of boiling rice used churn my gut out. So I have survived most of the nauseous days on only one large spoon full of cooked rice soaked in water with a half lemon squeezed in it and salt commonly known as pakhala in Odisha for the lunch and dinner. These chutneys used to b my side dishes as the taste of oil would also throw me up. I hope this list helps all the nauseous mothers to be able to eat their small meals with some relief atleast. Please add more to the list as variety is the need of the hour in the first trimester

#sourrecipies
#nausea
#firsttrimesterwoes

Constipation in pregnancy

How I fought with constipation and flatulence in first trimester?

I had constipation even before I was pregnant. I used have a strong cup of coffee in the morning and that usually helped. But in pregnancy we can't have so heavily caffeinated drink. Also the nausea and vomiting created an aversion towards coffee in the first trimester. And the problem of constipation loomed large for me. I used to feel a lot of abdominal discomfort and cry out of the pain. My elder sis in law is also pregnant now for 2nd time, she gave me some useful tips and suggestions to deal with it. I took her advice and tried them out my way. So I am listing here whatever works for me.

1)Psyllium husk works wonders for me. I soak 2 tbsp. of psyllium husk in half glass of water overnight ( stir it after adding water). In the morning i add hot water to it, so that it becomes a full glass of luke warm water with fully soaked husks. I drink it even before brushing my teeth. If u feel vomiting because of its sliminess you can squeeze in half a lemon in the morning. You can also add mishri/ sugar to it in the night itself so that it gets properly dissolved. I have gdm so I avoid it. May be on the first day u will not be relieved. But by the 3rd day you will definitely be relieved. It will also help to calm the churning stomach and gassiness.

2) Fibre rich fruits are also of great help especially ripe bananas( the best one ) and apple. All green leafy vegetables are also good source of fibres like bhindi, parwal and drumsticks. You can check out interesting recipies of these vegetable on babychakra.

3)Oats and meuseli are also fibre rich. You can also try chia seeds soaked over night.

4)Chewing one tbsp. of ajwain completely in the mouth and then swallowing it with mouthful of water helps to reduce flatulence a lot.

5)Raw papaya- Eating raw papaya curry for dinner also relives constipation. But its controversial . As per the older ladies of the house and common belief papaya is to be avoided during pregnancy. But in Rujuta Diwakar ’s book ‘the pregnancy notes’, I found that she has tagged it as a myth and busted it. So about this I am not so sure yet I ate it when I was in lot of distress and nothing was working out.

Normally, I used to peel the skin of papaya and cut it into cubical pieces. Then I usually wash it off 2 to 3 times and pressure cook it with salt to taste and turmeric powder for 3 whistles. Then in a wok I would splutter some whole cumin seeds, paanch phoron, red chillies, a few curry leaves with oil. And then I add finely chopped onions to it followed by hing/ asafoetida. Once the onions become lightly golden I add 1 tsp. Of ginger garlic paste. Once the paste gets cooked properly by leaving oil from sides as well as its smell I add finely chopped tomatoes. I cover it and let it cook for 5 minutes on low to medium flame. Finally I just add the pressure cooked papaya to the wok and let it cook covered for another 10 mins. I usually garnish it with fresh finely chopped coriander leaves if available. This recipe cooks in very less oil and is very healthy for normal people also. But during the first trimester as I was having aversion to oil and onion ginger garlic paste, I just used to boil the papaya with salt and turmeric powder for 3 to 4 whistles and add 2 to 3 pinches of jeera and red chilli powder. This powder is prepared by dry roasting whole cumin seeds and red chillies and then grinding it roughly like small chilly flakes.

6)‘WATER’ is the hero of constipation remedies- I can't stress enough on how much it is important to have at least 4 to 5 litres of water per day during pregnancy. As without increasing water intake, whatever you do, you will never be relieved of constipation. Because all the extra fibre that you will ingest, will gain mass only by soaking up water in the gut which will make the stool soft and slimy yet heavier enough to give you the urge for defecation. It is more effective and better to keep luke warm water in a thermo flask and drink out of it the whole day. Caution is to remember that it should be luke warm only not at all hot.

Besides for constipation, it is also necessary to drink adequate water to maintain a healthy level of amniotic fluid through out the pregnancy. It will also keep the skin sufficiently hydrated which will keep stretchy feeling and itching at bay and even reduce the amount of stretch marks. It will prevent urinary tract infection.

It can be substituted with flavoured drinks like dahi chas, lemonade, home made fruit juices ( musambi juice) or even tender coconut water which will cater both for nausea and weakness also by providing some form of glucose. Instead of making fruit juices for fruits like apple, orange , grapes or mangoes its better to have these as whole fruits as it gives the benefit of the dietary fibres which is lost upon juicing it.





If it is still not relieved then u can try syp looze, or syp duphalac or syp cremaffin after CONSULTING your GYNAECOLOGIST.

Please add to the list how you have fought with it. #firsttrimesterwoes
#constipation

Hing or asafoetida

HING or ASAFOETIDA

Hing is a well known Indian spice yet ideally ignored. In its raw form it has a very strong pungent smell which puts off many people even before they have used it. But, when the right amount of it is added to the tadka or masala of an Indian curry or even a drink it happily looses its smell to become so sublime as to be invisible. Since, it doesn't particularly impart any of its indigenous pungent smell or taste to the dish, it is easily forgotten or even ignored while cooking.

I was introduced to hing by my mom when I (paneer lover) complained to her that why paneer curries never tasted like her even when I was using the same recipe as hers and even more cashews. Infact while cooking any other Indian curry also I always felt that all the spices and ingredients that I used in the preparation retained their flavours and never really cared to come together and give the wholesome taste of the dish that I longed for. When I started adding a pinch of hing to the oil while spluttering the whole spices or tempering the paanch phoran or even while stirring the ginger garlic paste to perfection, I discovered the magic of hing. All the spices blended in each other to unleash the taste that I desired in my dish. So for me hing is the FLAVOUR BLENDER. It gives a smooth texture to the flavour of the curries and soups. Since then none of my dal tadkas or any curry go without a dash of hing in it. Yet its overuse may also ruin the taste by making it bitter.

Now coming to some facts about this mystic masala.

Hing is a dried latex extracted from the tap root of a perennial herb called ferula found in Iran and Afghanistan and is cultivated in India.

•Nutritionally it is rich I calcium, fiber, phosphorus, iron, niacin, carotene, and riboflavin.

•Antibacterial

•Antiviral

•Appetite enhancer

•Aides in digestion

•Aides in absorption of the nutrients from dal

•Reduces flatulence

•Relieves bloating

•Helps in respiratory infections

•Controls blood sugar

Besides tadka and curry, it can also be used in chhas and many other cooling drinks also.

Even topically massaging hing infused coconut oil on the tummy relieves gas an bloating.

A rolled ball of hing and jaggery is potent enough to stop hiccups.

This herb also holds Ayurveda importance in the treatment or remedies of many minor ailments.

All these properties of this mystic Indian herb make it a very important ingredient that must be included in a pregnant woman's diet during the 1st trimester especially as well as beyond.

So what are you waiting for, go and add this to your maid’s daily cooking routine!

A simple remedial massage

A simple monsoon massage

After an exhausting summer, thee first monsoon showers are definitely a sigh of relief. But as the monsoon progresses it brings several problems with it ranging from natural calamities to diseases. Most common is the cough and cold that affects people of all age groups.

Here is a simple oil massage that provides relief and protection from cough and cold to people of all age groups.

For this massage, the oil has to be prepared at home. You can keep a separate small aluminium bowl permanently for this purpose which can be used directly to heat the oil over a gas or heater and also to keep the oil for application purpose. Otherwise a tadka pan will also do the job.

Take some good quality mustard oil ( kachi ghani) with strong smell ( engine/ patanjali) .

Remove the skin of 5 to 6 garlic cloves.

Add the garlic cloves to the oil.

Add half tea spoon full of methi seeds and a half tea spoon full of kalonji to the oil.

Heat this oil untill the garlic cloves turn golden yellow.

If u are using a tadka pan u can transfer it to another bowl from which u can use the oil for application or else let it be in the same bowl itself.

Let the oil stand still for sometime for the temperature to come down. Once the hotness of the oil is tolerable to the tips of your fingers, you can now start applying the oil.

Take small amounts of oil on finger tips and rub it in between your palms and then apply it to the baby’ body, hands or legs.

After completing one round of liberal application of the oil to the whole body, apply some more oil to the sole of one feet and rub it vigorously with your bare hands to create more warmth. Repeat the same for the sole of the other feet, as well as to the palms of both the hands.

If the baby or child is already having cough and cold do not rub the oil on chest and back as it will aggravate the congestion.

If you are doing it as a preventive measure you can a vigorous rub of the oil to the back chest neck and forehead as well.

To toddlers or grown up children and adults you can give 1 or 2 cloves of garlic in oil in their palms. Ask them to rub the palms lightly to create warmth and draw its smell deeply into the chest by flaring up the nostrils.

Furthermore for the babies, you can use a heater nearby. Show your palms to the heater and transfer the heat to the various body parts of the baby.

Depending on the severity this treatment can be done once or twice a day.

Once the tolerable temperature of the oil is achieved, switch off the fan or slow down to prevent further cooling.

Happy monsoon!


The mom's co peppermint foot cream

I bought the natural foot cream by The moms co. It's highlight ingredients are peppermint essential oil, argan oil, shea butter, and vitamin e. I don't have any swelling in feets and ankle as of now but i always have a tingling pin prick like sensation in sole of both the feets, which increase after taking food or if the temperature of the environment is too high i.e. mostly during summers. And the temperature of the soles also feels much higher than the rest of my body, almost as if it could cook up an omlette. I usually keep soaking my feet in tub of water or apply ice and wrap it up with wet towels or show them under running water. As the tub water and towel become warm veru fast.
So, i had very high expectations from this product as there is no othet foot cream i could find which claimed yo give a cooling sensation. And by seeing the peppermint cobtent on it i bought it. Yes on application it did give a little bit cool sensation for a very few seconds. But the effect didnt last any further. Its fragrance is super awesome and its moiturising power is up to the mark. As suggested over the pack I store it in refrigerator, to increaee the cooling sensation but it is not of much help. Just a difference of few more seconds. Still its a good competition to other foot creams available in the market because of the peppermint esseantial oil and as price wise also it is very affordable. As far as relief to swollen feet is concerned i ll update if i have them towards the end of my pregnancy.

Constipation in pregnancy

Constipation in pregnancy is very normal. Dont worry about it. A Little care and regularity will help u deal with it.
1) 4 to 5 liters of lukewarm water per day in 24 hours

2) small meals every 2 hours

3) apple banana and tender coconut water 4) soak a 1 to 2 tbsp isabgol in half glass water each night. Add a small piece of mishri to it ( i hope u dont have GDM). In the morning, add half glass hot water to it. Stir it with a spoon untill uniform. U can add a few drops of lemon juice to it too.

Drink it first thing in the morning. 5)dry fruits- almonds, manukka, prunes etc soaked over night in water and to b eaten in the morning after isabgol drink.

6) properly chew 1 tbsp of ajwain/ saunf and swallow it with mouthful of water after each meal.

7) include hing, jeera, and paanch phutan in ur cooking process for dal and curries.

8) include a cup of homemade yogurt/ curd along with your lunch everyday.

9) avoid too spicy and oily foods.

10) lunch and dinner must have a balanced portion of carbohydrates i.e rice/ roti, fibers in the form of vegetables, some pickle or chutney, other than the most important protiens.
Doing all this has helped me. I hope it will help u too.

Logic behind orders

Our elders always set some rules for eating and drinking when we were kids. Those rules had become habits in those days. But as a part of growing up and due to our busy lifestyle of take away food, on the way food, street food etc etc we have shed those habits. They need to be remembered again and adequately inculcated in our children for their healthy outcome.

In those days the elders didn't back up their rules with science or logic. They used their stern demanding voices which were unarguably obeyed. But in today's digital age, kids are too smart to accept rules, and obey them , so they need to be logically explained as they grow up and start studying science as a subject in the school.

We should drink water from glass only and that too in sitting position. No straw is to be used or not even directly from bottle as in both these processes we tend to swallow air which also adds to constipation and flatulence. And in sitting position only to avoid the entry of water into the wind pipe or trachea. When we are drinking water in standing position we tend to be in a hurry. And drinking water in sleeping position is totally a no no as there is risk of aspiration. As we are conscious beings in our daily life we can cough and sneeze the aspired water out of the trachea but toddlers might not be able to do so completely. These reflexes are natural protective functions of our body.
Also, we should not talk while eating. We should chew the food with our mouth closed. these are also to prevent aerophagy.

Hiccups also occur when we eat or drink too fast and mix these acts with talking and laughing, as the swallowed air ( aerophagy) accumulates in the fundus of the stomach and irritates the diaphragm, thus stimulating the vagus nerve to start the hiccups. Through hiccups the gas is released bit by bit which becomes painful after 4 to 5 times. Usually we are advised or encouraged to drink water and initiate continuous peristaltic movements of the esophagus to force the trapped air to move down into the gut or else it gets released by belching.

So our grandparents were way more intelligent and caring than us, as they taught us the proper way to do the smallest and most natural activities of life in the correct way.

Problems with breast milk banks

Although breast milk banks have now cropped up in hospitals but there are only very few mother who are willing to donate their milk. As they want to ensure sufficient milk for their baby first. And it takes more efforts to be a donar too. as they have to take adequate diet to continue the supply, as well as travel the distance to the bank to empty their breasts.
So increasing the mother's accessibility to the bank or transportation facility of the expressed breast milk from home to the bank will only increase the breast milk bank stores for the nicu infants to be fed with breast milk. As a new mom is already overwhelmed with a lot of responsibilities and limited support, so this act of donating becomes tiring for her even if she is willing to. Even some rewards should be provided to donating mothers as a token of encouragement and gratitude. Yes more awareness is to be created about the benefits of donating breast milk.

My favourite Bollywood pregnancy movie

My favourite pregnancy bollywood movie- PAA. I watched this movie continously on repeat mode for 3 days after returning from the doctor's clinic. Then last one day i watched this scene where vidya's mom asks her again and again " bacha chahiye ya nahi chahiye?". Vidya goes on and on with her insecurities. But her mom settles it down so easily by giving her own example and support. I wish all moms were like her so strong and supportive.

I also fantasized that I too will b able to study all through my pregnancy like Vidya and appear for the neet pg exams. But little did I know that for her pregnancy got over in a song of 3 minutes but for me it will take 3 trimesters of innumerable hurdles which I will have to deal all alone with limited support.

Yet the movie gave the much needed perspective at that time. Soon I found BABYCHAKRA. It was like 'doobte-hue-ko-tinke-ka-sahara' situation for me. Then I decided to take one step at a time. Slow and steady wins the race. I have such a long life. Zaldi zaldi sab kuch haasil karke kya karna he?

I will study later with my baby around me. May be, my baby will get inspired by seeing me. Now I am happy enjoying this sabbatical from work, professional life career etc. Even better that I discovered my own self worth by sharing my thoughts with all the moms here on Babychakra.

CARDIOTOCOGRAPHY

CARDIOTOCOGRAPHY (CTG)

What is CTG?

Let us first break the term- Cardio-Toco-Graphy.
Upon decoding each fragment we get, Cardio which means heart (as we all know); Toco is a prefix term derived from the Greek word Tokos meaning labor or child birth, and Graphy means graphical representation. So, basically, Cardiotocography is a graphical recording of fetal heart beat and uterine contractions during pregnancy. The machine used to conduct this test is called Cardiotocograph or Electronic Fetal Monitor. The graph looks somewhat like an ECG.

Why is CTG done?

It is done to assess the fetal well being before and during the labor.

How is CTG done?

The mother is asked to lie down on the bed on her back. The machine is brought close to the mother’s bed. It has two transducers. These transducers are based on Doppler ultrasound mechanism. Both the transducers can function externally and internally.
External recording can be done continuously or intermittently. For external recording, first of all the doctor tries to find out the location of the fetal heart with the help of a fetal stethoscope or with the help of a hand held portable Doppler. One transducer is placed on the fetal heart location with the help of some jelly to pick the fetal heart rate. The other transducer is placed on the fundus of the uterus which is identified by mere palpation of the abdomen by the doctor. This transducer records the uterine contractions. A crepe bandage like strap is used to fix both the transducer on to the abdomen. The mother is also given a button which she has to press every time she feels a fetal movement.
Internal recording is done only when labor has progressed and there is some cervical dilatation. A pressure catheter is inserted into the uterine cavity via the vagina and cervix. A scalp electrode is attached to presenting fetal scalp after rupture of the membranes.

When is CTG done?

It is a method of fetal surveillance carried out in the third trimester mostly towards the term and during labor.
When a continuous external electronic fetal monitoring or CTG for 30 minutes is done in late pregnancy i.e. after 32 weeks, it is known as NON-STRESS TEST as there is no stress of labor. In this test, an increase in fetal heart rate with fetal movements is observed and counted upon as a healthy fetus. Sometimes if the fetus is in non-REM sleep and not showing any movements during the recording, vibroacoustic stimulation is given to bring the fetus to REM sleep and initiate fetal movements.
During labor it is done in case there is maternal hypertension, previous caesarean delivery, induced labor, premature rupture of membrane, multiple pregnancy, abnormal fetal heart rate heard through stethoscope. Mostly external monitoring is done in normal cases. Internal monitoring is done only when a complicacy is anticipated in the course of an already progressing normal vaginal delivery.

How does it help the doctor in decision making?

While lying in the labor room with the transducers tied to your abdomen, you may hear terms like acceleration and deceleration. They are nothing but increase in fetal heart rate and decrease in fetal heart rate in response to fetal movements or uterine contractions and relaxations. So you need not panic or be anxious about them. From the graph doctor acquires information about frequency, duration and intensity of uterine contractions along with the changes in fetal heart rate. A first time mom may take 12 to 24 hours to deliver by normal or induced labor. Hence this monitoring becomes necessary to actively assess the fetal well being and progress of the labor until a significant cervical dilatation has occurred. Any abnormality or complicacy or fetal distress faced during monitoring, the doctor can immediately proceed for a lower segment c-section.

Fetal rights

On this independence day, as a citizen of a free country we can excersice our rights as human beings. Our law and constitution empowers us to do so. There is also united nations organiztaion above all countries which recognizes human rights and looks into its implementation. A person whose rights are violated is a victim of of some kind of injustice be it either societal, criminal, or mental etc. These issues are being addresed on a daily basis by the living talking acting human beings.

Animals; there rights have also been recognised and protected over the time.
What about the unborn? What about the fetus? Isn't it living? Does it have any rights? How can a fetus excersice its rights?
Many questions arise from the term "FETAL RIGHTS".
As far as common sense and knowledge goes, a fetus can have only interest and that is of getting born. This has been recognised upto some extent by the Hippocratic oath (which restricts the usage of abortifacients on the basis of medical ethics) taken by doctors as soon as they enter the med school.

Many countries recognise the fetus as living from the day of conception. The free law of USA too recognises a fetus as a living personality from the day of conception, yet recognises the choice of mother as well. Thereby maintaining a balance. Any misconduct done to a pregnant female with or without the knowledge about her pregnancy is punishable as per their law.

But in india a fetus gains any recognition only after the fetus becomes viable. Viable means the stage at which if the fetus is delivered it can survive. The Medical termination of pregnancy (MTP) act and the Pre conception and pre natal diagnostic techniques act (pc-pndt act) uphold the interest of the fetus in the indian constitution. But the choice of the mother is not recognised in India owing to the problem of gender selection, female feoticide, and the skewed sex ratio of the country. Yet, it allows safe abortion for victims of rape under the mtp act.
What is your take on fetal rights? When should the fetus get its rights? Is 'getting born' truly the only right of a fetus? What about fetal health? Doesn't a fetus have a right to health? Does the mother really have the rights to decide who takes birth and when it takes birth from her womb after conception?
Think about it.

Sacrifice vs satisfaction

Mother earth and mother nature are the greatest epitomes of sacrifice in every organism's life cycle that populates this planet. Every orgnaism that embodies life is grateful to mother earth, mother nature and to the almighty for that. Each organism has to struggle its way to survive and thereafter give back to both mother earth and nature at the end of the life cycle whatever was their's. Yet both of them are so indifferent towards what they give and take. Every single atom of them is an embodiment of sacrifice and sacrifice alone. So what gives them the satisfaction to go on and on endlessly for eternity? Why doesn't the planet come crushing down on us wiping us all off one fine day? Only to be a witness to the play of creation is their satisfaction. Yes, they do bring destruction and havoc in the form of calamities but only to recreate. Creation-nourishment-destruction-recreation is the dynamic cycle driving all the inevitable changes around us.

God has gifted us females with this dynamic power to run this cycle just like mother earth and mother nature endlessly untill eternity.what is this power? It is nothing but the ability to sacrifice. He packed every cell of the female body with unlimited power to sacrifice. Only then it is possible that a female gives birth to life, with every cell of her body and soul contributing in the creation. So, motherly instincts are inherent in us from the day we were concieved in our mother's wombs. But the greatest rule of sacrifice is that it never demands a pay back.

Unlike mother earth and mother nature we are humans first, hence we have all rights to have expectations too. Being content with whatever we have achieved in life will keep us peaceful and stressfree leading us to a better day to day healthy lifestyle. But is contentment equal to satisfaction? Ask yourself, what makes you content and happy? And what gives you the sense of satisfaction, i.e. the sense of being alive?
I asked these questions to myself. It took me quiet long to realise and find the answers by myself. I am sharing it with you here. Please do share your answers with me too. After all sharing is caring 😂😂😂
To me at this point of time in my life contentment is this phase of motherhood that am going through and will go through in the near future. It is the fulfillment of a purpose of the soul that inhabits and drives this body of mine. My success as a mother will complete one dynamic cycle only after the recreation embodies itself into the bundle of joy in my arms. My gift of joy given to me by God through me only.
My sacrifice is my contentment. And for this sacrifice to survive as contentment forever I have to be aware of my expectations. My expectations must never ever overpower my contentment or my this joy of sacrifice. And for my expectations to be under my control I have to create satisfaction within myself. This satisfaction shall come from the fulfillment of a purpose of the soul that inhabits and drives my mind. Both sacrifice and satisfaction demand efforts. Sacrificing as a mother comes easy to us because we are designed so physically. But creating satisfaction within is a bit more difficult as power of the human  mind or brain is the same for all men and women. Satisfaction has to be earned  and earned enough to overpower the emotion of expectation especially from my bundle of joy. Only if I am satisfied and feel fulfilled in my mind I can keep the contentment of sacrifice alive for long. The day I start expecting from my child the contentment will be over. So, once I am content with my recreation, I will have to nourish it with my sense of satisfaction in order make this journey harmonious and joyful till the end of my living. 
I feel I can earn this sense of satisfaction only by following my passions. So I pledge never to sacrifice my passion.

What is your pledge for satisfaction?

Thursday 9 August 2018

Remedies for cough and cold in monsoons

Monsoons are synonymous with coughs and colds, but they need not be, really. Try the following home remedies that my dad used to make for me and my sister and some I’ve learnt over time

1. Make this medicine from tulsi and ginger. Take 7 to 10 tulsi leaves and wash them nicely. Take 1 inch ginger, wash it and remove the skin. Crush the leaves and ginger with a pestle and mortar. Do not grind it. Crush it nicely and then squeeze it to get the juice with ur clean bare hands. To this juice add a teaspoon of honey. Have this tincture first thing in the morning on an empty stomach. This remedy cures as well as prevents cough and cold.


2. You can also make a tea out of tulsi, ginger, black pepper, cloves, bay leaves and cardamom. Add salt to taste and mishri. Store this in a thermo flask and sip it all day.

3. Try to suck on half a inch ginger coated with salt or a single clove for long time by placing it under the tongue near the molars. The juice will be released slowly and soothe the throat.

4. You can also try sunthi ( powder of dried ginger) along with some warm ghee. Mix it with ur steaming hot rice in lunch time.

5. When I was in hostel and not too well to do all this, I used to rely on only hot water. I would carry my thermoflask like a kid everywhere for those 3 to 4 days and just chew 7 to 8 tulsi leaves if available.

Initially i didn’t know that these remedies were actually so helpful. When I caught cough and cold in college, i visited a lot of my professors who would give me various cough syrups with codeine, dextromethorphan, guaphensin, ephedrine etc in them but no relief.

Then I became irritated and tried to remember my father's remedies. When I started taking them, I got relief within 3 to 4 days. By the time the cold went, the cough had also gone. No residual cough!

All these natural ingredients are also safe in pregnancy and help to build immunity also. Try them and share your experience.

How to tackle nausea in pregnancy?

One fine morning I woke up feeling weak and craving for nimbu paani. The craving was so strong that I skipped my morning routine of brushing and drank up 2 large tumblers of nimbu paani instantly.

Only then it struck me that I had missed my periods. The upt card test confirmed it with 2 pink lines. I was about to shout at the top of my voice but instead I puked, holding my tummy. I hit the bed and called for help.

I was happily in distress. Little did I know that this khatta craving story was going to stay on for next 3 months. But by the end of it, I had a list of items to alternate along with meals as I got too bored with only lemons. Some were easy and instant and some needed a few preparations. I have listed them down here.

1. Lemon chilli - The most easy peasy one is half a lemon juice with a pinch of salt and one smashed chilly. The smell of it relieves nausea instantly and improves the ability to take food into the mouth.

2. Tomato chutney - 1 tomato fried lightly in oil and smashed with finely chopped onions, amada (a type of ginger with raw mango essence in it) , finely chopped green chillies, finely chopped coriander and one finely chopped garlic. I had aversion to the smell of onion and garlic, so I used to skip them. And not to forget salt to taste. You can also put aamchur and chat masala.

3. Raw mango chutney - It was the beginning of summers and raw mangoes were abundantly available in the market. One finely chopped raw mango ground with 2 green chillies, a sprig of coriander, half inch amada, one tsp cumin (jeera) and salt to taste. If the mango is too sour then you can add some sugar or jaggery. This chutney can be stored in refrigerator for 4 to 5 days and consumed as and when required.

4. Amla (gooseberry) can be cut into long pieces and sun dried for to 5 days, then coated with salt and black salt. It is to be sun dried for 4 to 5 days more until the water has dried up completely and then stored in an airtight container. One piece of amla can be kept under the tongue near the molars for sometime and then chewed.

5. Ginger dipped in honey can also be placed under the tongue near the molars and sucked onto for sometime and later on chewed.

6. Thick yogurt with salt to taste and one green chilly smashed in it is also a tasty recipe. But be careful not to eat yogurt directly from the refrigerator. Take the yogurt out of refrigerator at least one hour before your meal time.

7. Dahi chaas - The thick yogurt can be churned mildly by adding water in small amounts. A few tender lemon leaves, a sprig of coriander, one green chilly, half inch ginger, half a lemon juice to be crushed roughly using a pestle and mortar. This mixture is added to the watery yogurt followed by salt to taste, a pinch of black salt, a pinch of amchur, chat masala and jeera powder. Stir it well to get the perfect blend. A sip of this drink will help you gulp down the food slowly.

8. Coriander tamarind chutney - A handful of finely chopped coriander leaves ground with 1 tsp of presoaked cumin seeds, half inch amada/normal ginger, half cup of tamarind water, jaggery/sugar and salt to taste. The tamarind has to be soaked in hot water for an hour and then the flesh has to separated from the seeds manually. This chutney can be stored for 4 to 5 days in the refrigerator and consumed liberally along with meals. The taste of this chutney gets enhanced after one day.

9. Sun dried raw mangoes - Salt coated raw mango pieces (a.k.a ambula in odia) can be soaked in warm water for an hour and then crushed with a spoonful of yogurt, green chilly, few curry leaves and garlic. Raw mangoes have to be cut into long pieces and sun dried for a 4 to 5 days. Then they are coated with salt and again sun dried for 4 to 5 days until the water has dried completely. The mangoes become black in colour after being completely sundried. This mango can be used in various ways.
In dal, with lemon juice, crushed garlic and green chillies, sambhar, etc. In odisha, a dish called ambula rai is also prepared using it with yogurt and mustard paste.

10. Readymade mango pickles and lemon pickles can also save the day if nothing else is available.

11. Peanut chutney - This is one of my favourite chutneys which I prefer to have with all south Indian dishes. A handful of peanuts to be roasted and the red skin is to be removed.
The peanuts are then ground along with 1 tsp of cumin, 2 green chillies and salt to taste. This has to be freshly prepared and consumed immediately. It doesn't taste that good if stored.

12. Finely chopped fresh raw mango sprinkled with salt, black salt, jeera powder, red chilli powder, and chat masala. The smell helps fight the nauseous feeling and chewing the tangy mango pieces feels heavenly. As a kid I used to steal raw mangoes by throwing stones and ask mumma to make this for us. We used enjoy it during the evening kaal baisakhi rains while making various kinds of noises while eating.

13. Tomato khatta - This is an interesting side dish recipe which I demanded every alternate day. For this simple recipe, 1 tsp cumin seeds, paanch phoran, finely chopped green chillies and few curry leaves are to be spluttered in 1 tbsp oil in a wok. Then a finely chopped onion is added and fried until golden. Then freshly chopped tomatoes, dates/ kissmiss, salt to taste and jaggery/sugar is added and covered over a low flame. After 10 minutes when the tomatoes become mushy, half a glass water is added and covered again for 5 more minutes. It is garnished with sprigs of coriander and grated coconut if available and served hot with chapatis, parathas or even as side dish with rice.

14. Dahi baingan - this is a very common recipe, every household prepares it in its own way. Instead of deep frying the baingan, I prefer to shallow fry the baingan, in order to keep it healthy, along with jeera, paanch phoran, red chillies, curry leaves and salt to taste. Once it cools down, I add it to the smooth yogurt prepared by lightly churning the thick yogurt with small amounts of water. To enhance the taste, red chilly powder, jeera powder, aamchur chat masala etc can be added as per availability and garnished with coriander leaves.

15. Ambula rai - For this recipe the sundried salt coated mango pieces as explained earlier have to soaked in water overnight. In a wok, 1 tsp cumin seeds, paanch phoran, red chillies and curry leaves are spluttered. 1 tbsp paste of white mustard seeds is added to it followed by the pre soaked mango pieces. It is covered and allowed to cook over a low flame for 10 minutes and then it is cooled down. Yogurt is lightly churned by adding small amount of water to get an adequate consistency. Freshly grated coconut, salt to taste, red chilly powder, jeera powder, aamchur and chat masala are added to taste and mixed. The cooled down mangoes in the wok is then added to the yogurt mixture. 

16. Boondi raita - Unsweetened boondi added to smooth yogurt with salt, sugar, red chilly powder, aamchur, black salt and chat masala also tastes good.

17. Freshly chopped cucumber and onion raita is also an option

18. South indian rasam.

19. Pre soaked tamarind smashed with green chillies and garlic.

20. Classic nimbu paani ( not to forget) with or without jaljeera.

All these variations of the sour taste helped me get by those difficult 3 months. Even the smell of boiling rice used churn my gut out.
So I have survived most of the nauseous days on only one large spoon full of cooked rice soaked in water with a half lemon squeezed in it and salt commonly known as pakhala in Odisha for lunch and dinner.

These chutneys used to be my side dishes as the taste of oil would also make me throw up.

I hope this list helps all the nauseous mothers to be able to eat their small meals with some relief.

PER VAGINUM EXAMINATION


                                    
In any of your antenatal checkups, after completing your general examination, the doctor will proceed for a vaginal examination.
Why is an internal vaginal examination necessary?
At first visit-
1)      To diagnose pregnancy in 1st trimester.
2)      Assessment of the gestational age
3)      To confirm intra uterine pregnancy
4)      To identify any abnormality in the genital tract
5)      A general examination of the cervix
Now a days transvaginal scans, being more informative, accurate and safer, are replacing routine internal examination in early days of pregnancy.  So mostly you will be spared of the PV examination in your first trimester. 
At any subsequent antenatal visit
1)      For investigation of a threatened abortion- i.e. - if the patient complains of lower abdomen pain, excessive cramps, or any abnormal vaginal discharge.
2)      To confirm diagnosis of pre-term labor
3)      To confirm pre-term rupture of membrane
4)      Assessment of the cervical length, smoothness, consistency and regularity of the surface.
5)      For detection of cervical effacement or dilatation in a patient with a previous history of pre-term labor or a mid trimester abortion
6)      A general pelvic assessment to predict the possibility of a normal delivery or an impending cephalopelvic disproportion.

And before labor-

1)      To assess the favorability of the cervix prior to induction of labor
2)      Identification of the presenting part in the pelvis
3)      For artificial rupture of membrane to induce labor.
As a patient it is your right to be completely aware of the procedure and its cause. Your consent for the procedure is also important, though not on paper, but your doctor will definitely explain you about it and take you in confidence before proceeding for the examination. But being informed about the procedure beforehand will help to reduce your anxiety of unknown.
You will be first asked to pee and completely empty your bladder.
In a closed room and in complete privacy you will be asked to remove your bottom clothes and lie down on the doctor’s examination bed, with your legs spread open and bent at the knees. The accompanying nurse will help you to settle down comfortably with extra sheets if required. Any female accompanying you for the visit will also be allowed to be with you during the examination.
The doctor will the use his/her pre-washed, sterile gloved hands to first see the vagina by separating the labia. At this point he/she will look for any vaginal discharge or any abnormal protruding mass or growth.
In case of presence of any discharge, he/she might want to take a vaginal smear for examination. In that case, a bivalve speculum will be used to keep the vagina open and under a good source of light, vaginal swab will be collected from the upper vagina with the help of a small soft bottle brush tip on a long stick.
This procedure will be a little painful but it is not done in normal cases unless there is an indication.
Thereafter the doctor will proceed for per vaginum examination, by introducing two fingers, index and middle finger of the right hand deep into the vagina while keeping the labia separated with the fingers of the left hand.
Once inside the vagina he/ she will use the left hand to manipulate the fundus or top of the gravid uterus.
Per vaginum examination is done at least once during any one of the antenatal visits, may be either in the early, mid or late days of pregnancy as per the requirement of the presenting situation. It is certainly not painful but a little discomforting. It will be easier and more tolerable if you are mentally prepared for it. You should try to be completely relaxed and calm mentally and allow your pelvic muscles and thighs to be relaxed too.  In that case the penetration will be easier and pain free.
It is completely normal and natural to feel uncomfortable and shy to spread open the legs even if the examining doctor is a female. But you have to trust your doctor and be assured that your privacy is being given utmost priority. You also have to acknowledge the fact that you are pregnant and at the time of your delivery, be it normal or a c-section, there will be a lot more medical personnel other than the doctor and the nurse present now, looking at your private parts in anticipation of the birth of the baby.  So, it’s better  to get comfortable with your examining doctor from this stage onwards.
You don’t need to feel embarrassed about the pubic hair growth down their even if you have gone unprepared for it, neither do you need to rush to get it waxed, trimmed or removed in a hurry. Because, doctors are used to seeing various kinds of growth and for pv examination it doesn’t matter at all.
Yes, before delivery or while nearing the term, you may want to go for removal as per your personal wish, if you are not comfortable with the idea of getting shaved off by a medical personnel.  So, ladies, it is the time to shed down all reservations and shyness and start getting prepared for the upcoming delivery on the D day as well as for breast feeding in public. These natural dispenses of our body need not pull us down from our path of moving ahead as an urban, modern, achiever woman of the 21st century at all.


What to do when a child falls from height?



Before the concept of contraception or family planning came into action, people used to reproduce carelessly. The only population control mechanism was epidemics of small pox or cholera or natural calamities or hazards.  Married females were pregnant every alternate year.  A single support less mother surrounded by toddlers and one infant at the breast was the picture.  They never paid individual attention to each child. Those children grew up in the community playing, falling, and taking care of each other. And survival of the fittest was the rule.
But today times have changed. Mothers have decided on having only one or two children. So they are precious.  A small simple abrasion also panics her. And when the apple of their eye falls from height to sustain even a mild trauma to the head, her heart bleeds endlessly until the memory of the incident fades from her mind. Guilt creeps all over her for not being around her dearest piece of heart. She remembers the incident in her subconscious mind always to recount it whenever she finds anything unusual about her child’s behaviour.
So to calm the panic stricken mother, some information and knowledge about what to do and when to rush to the hospital, might help
What happens when a child falls from height?
Apart from injuries to limbs, most concerning one is the injury to head.  If a child sustains a head injury, following consequences occur-
1.      Crying – Don’t panic immediately as the child starts crying, allow the child to be active and to cry for some time.
2.      Swelling – look for the severity of the swelling.  Apply ice pack to the swollen area until it seems to decrease or for 20 to 30 minutes. Check if the swelling seems to decrease or increase. If it increases even after applying ice then take the child to the hospital/emergency without any delay.
3.      A laceration over swelling- Clean the wound of any dirt with running water. Pat dry, apply Betadine ointment and give pressure bandage. If the wound is big or if the bleeding is too profuse that it starts seeping the bandage, then rush to the emergency immediately.
Immediate signs of danger-
In case any of the following occurs either immediately after fall or anytime within 24 hours, then rush to the hospital without any delay.
1)      Vomiting
2)      Loss of consciousness
3)      Ear bleed
4)      Nasal bleed
5)      Seizures
If the child is having seizures, immediately turn the child on to left side and try to control the seizures by holding the limbs. They usually stop within seconds to a minute or in 2 minutes. Rush to emergency as fast as possible.
Not to miss symptoms within 24 hours of fall
1)      Fever – use a thermometer to check the temperature
2)      Neck rigidity- Try to move the child’s head on to the chest such that the chin of the child touches the chest with the mouth being closed.  If there is any difficulty, restriction or pain in doing this, then schedule an appointment with your pediatrician as soon as possible.
3)      Decrease in vision
4)      Decrease in hearing
5)      Decrease in movement or tone of any of the four limbs
6)      Any visible milestone regression
What will happen at the emergency or the hospital?
As soon as you reach the emergency, the emergency physician will examine the child thoroughly and send the child for a CT scan. You may be asked to make the child fall asleep or the doctor may prescribe a mild sedative for making the child fall asleep for a few minutes. If the CT scan appears normal, then you will be discharged with warning signs and some pain relieving medication. In case there is any abnormality in the scan, the child will be kept under observation for some time, and a neurosurgery opinion will be sought for. Further the prognosis will be explained to you by the treating doctor.
Prevention is always better than cure.
Safety precautions that can be taken
1)      For babies, use a stable strong and stout cot with railings to sleep in, when you are not around or else lay their bed on the floor itself with pillows surrounding the baby.
2)      Always be vigilant when toddlers are playing around in the park with other kids.
3)      Do not allow the kids to play on terrace or streets.
4)      When the child starts crawling or walking, adequately baby proof your house.
We all know about these safety measures and try our best to follow all of them, but mishaps still occur. Be little liberal to yourself. Guilt will creep in but we have to learn to forgive ourselves with time. And not letting the child to play with the fear of such mishaps is also not justified. It is their childhood and it will take its course as per their destiny. We have to accept that certain incidents are not under human control.